1. Be kissable. Use lip balm especially if your lips tend to get dry and chapped. Soft lips are simply more inviting. Most importantly, nobody wants to kiss someone with bad breath, so carry some breath mints or gum with you, especially if you’re going out on a date.  Breath mints are preferable, because you can use them in a pinch and not have to worry about getting rid of them. Be sure to stay hydrated, because a dry mouth is more likely to have bad breath.  If you're going to a movie where candy a treats are necessary, bring an extra pack of gum. Drink water; other drinks (especially sweet ones) can leave an aftertaste that'll affect your breath, and some drinks (like milk) will linger in a bad way. Also, don't drink anything colored that might leave a ring around your mouth.

2.Test the waters. Pay attention to signals that the other person is into you and is ready for a kiss. Do they brush up against you or frequently enter your personal space with playful, innocent touches?  Has the subject of kissing come up in conversation?  If you haven’t noticed any of these signals, but the person does seem “into you,” try discreetly and innocently breaking the touch barrier (guys will generally be very receptive to this, many girls might not).  The key is to be subtle and to watch the other person’s reaction.

• Offer a mint, only after you've just had one. This can let the other person know what's on your  mind, unless you offer them mints all the time.
• Glance at his or her lips. Don't stare, and don't do this when they're talking about something that's important to them.
• Kiss her hand. How does she respond?

 

3.Wait for the right moment.  There’s usually no hurry for a kiss, especially a first kiss with someone, so be patient and wait until the mood is right.  Some good times are at a romantic movie after or during an on screen kiss, walking in the moonlight, or during a particularly intimate conversation.  Wait until the two of you are alone so that the other person will feel more comfortable and so that nobody will see if your attempt to kiss is rejected. Many girls (and guys) don't want to be asked: they prefer that you be confident enough to take a risk and just go for it.  One way to do so is to stop whatever you’re doing and silently look into the person’s eyes for a moment or two.  Touch their face, then gently pull him/her toward you for a kiss.  If the person pulls away or hesitates at any time, he or she is not ready for a kiss. If this happens, tell them that you want to give them a hug and go for that.

 

4.Approach for the kiss.  Approach slowly and smoothly.  Depending on your starting position you may need only to turn your head, or you may need to lean in a bit.  You may want to use your hands to gently urge your partner’s body or head into position—you just want to guide his or her movement a little, you don’t want to forcibly move any part of his or her body or hold your partner in an uncomfortable position—but in general you just want to position yourself correctly and let your partner meet you. As you near your partner’s lips, maintain eye contact.  You may want to close your eyes after your lips meet to heighten the sensuality of the kiss (and to avoid staring at the pores on his or her face).

 

5. Kiss gently.  There are many kinds of kisses, from quick pecks to sweet, passionate kisses.  There’s a time and place for all of these, but your first kiss with someone should be gentle and romantic.  Don’t press your mouth onto your partner’s--just let your lips meet--and don’t try to push your tongue into his or her mouth.  When your lips meet, pucker them and give a kiss, then smile and pull away a little, keeping your head close to your partner’s. If your partner moves to kiss you back or seems to like it and doesn’t pull away, go in for another kiss, this one a little firmer and longer. Put your hands on their face or around their shoulders.

6. Make the kiss the reason for the kiss.  Some people seem to treat kisses as nothing more than a prelude to something else, and will try to quickly move into French kissing or start putting their hands in inappropriate places.  Good kissers concentrate on the kiss, and they kiss, at least seemingly, expecting nothing more.  Enjoy the experience, and don’t move too fast. Live in the moment.  You will not kiss as well if your mind is somewhere else.  For example, when kissing, try to avoid thoughts like "What is he/she thinking about?", "Do I look good tonight?", or anything else.  Don't be too self-conscious, or have ANY thoughts outside the kiss if you can help it.  Instead, concentrate on the way the other person's lips feel against yours.

 
 

• Be polite and patient. Don't expect a kiss on the first date.  If you act polite, your partner might go out with you again and then you might get a kiss once he or she is more comfortable with you.  That said, as you get a little older, people become more comfortable with kissing and it’s polite to gently try to kiss your partner if your date has gone well.  If you don’t, he or she might think you’re not interested.  Just keep in mind that trying to kiss someone is not the same as expecting to kiss someone.  If your partner isn’t into it, politely respect that.

• Experiment. Over time, you’ll want to try a variety of different kisses for different moods and times.  Change it up to keep things interesting.  For more information read up on how to French Kiss and how to Kiss Passionately.
• Learn from your mistakes if you can - sometimes the timing is bad or the approach too forceful - and approach your next opportunity confidently.
• Make sure your hair is out of your face.

• Kissing is not supposed to be so aggressive and harsh that it feels like a contest of who can get their tongue the farthest into their partner's mouth. However, in some types of relationships, dominance is fought over during kissing. Keep in mind, though, that these relationships are usually fully developed, and you should not be aggressive during a first kiss.
• Don't move to open-mouthed too soon. Let the other person give you signals.

1. Moisten your lips. Dry lipsdo not move well together. Just a light brush of your tongue over your lips will be sufficient to moisten them. In general, use lip balm regularly- you never know when someone will go in for the smooch.
2. Angle your head. If your mouths meet dead-on, your noses will get in the way, and you will not be able to kiss deeply or smoothly. To avoid this, tilt your head slightly to one side. Make sure you do not both tilt your heads to the same side.
3. Close your eyes. As you approach for the kiss, look into your partner's eyes, but, once you are close to theirs, close your eyes. It can be a bit of a turnoff to be kissing and going cross-eyed. However, you don't need to always close your eyes; some people enjoy keeping their eyes open and seeing their partner when kissing.
4. Start with a gentle and soft closed-mouth kiss. The French kiss is an open-mouth kiss, but do not lunge in with your lips agape like you're going to eat them; instead, open your lips very slowly. If you were learning to speak French, you would probably start with the basics, vocabulary and grammar, before trying to write poetry. Well, the French kiss is like the poetry of kissing, and before you can be good at it, you have to master the closed-mouth kiss. Even after you have added French kissing to your romantic repertoire, it is usually better to start a kiss with closed lips.
5. Go Dutch on the decision to French. Kissing should be a shared decision. You need to have permission to French kiss someone, but when your lips are locked with theirs you may not want to stop and ask, "Hey, this is great, but can I put my tongue in your mouth?". Open your lips slowly and just a little during the kiss so that one of your lips is sandwiched between theirs and one of theirs is between yours. As you are locking and re-locking lips, brush your tongue against your partner's lips ever so slightly. This should make it clear that you want to French kiss. If your partner's tongue does not respond in like fashion or if they pull away, you will have to save the French kiss for another time when you are both ready.
6. Explore with your tongue. If you and your partner seem to be enjoying the open-mouth kiss, slowly try to open your mouth a little bit more and gently push your tongue a little farther into their mouth. The tongue is very sensitive, and the mere act of touching your partner's tongue with your own will be very pleasant and stimulating for each of you. Do not stick your tongue too far into the mouth, as this can be a big turn-off. Instead, just gently and playfully touch tongues. As a guy, when you are starting to french kiss, touch your tongue to hers very lightly.If she wants more, she will come and get it.
7. Go slow. Passionate kisses are good sometimes, but to really enjoy a French kiss, you must take it slow. Do not hurry and take time to explore each other's mouths.
8. Breathe. If you’re kissing for an extended period, it’s easy to forget to breathe. Believe it or not, gasping and turning blue is not romantic. Take small breaths through your nose as you kiss. You do not forget how to breathe! As you and your partner grow comfortable with the kiss, you can try breathing through your mouth a little: sharing breaths as well can be romantic(but not everybody likes it).
9. Mix it up. Kisses are like snowflakes: no two are exactly the same. Once you finally feel comfortable French kissing someone, it is tempting to try to do the same thing every time. Add variety. Sometimes kiss deeper, for example, and other times pay more attention to the lips than the tongue. Hold the kiss longer or shorter and explore the art of kissing. When something feels good for each of you, do not abandon it for the sake of variety.
10. Use your hands. While you should keep your hands polite, especially on a first kiss, you don’t necessarily want them just dangling at your sides. Embrace your partner, cup his or her face very gently in your hands, or run your hands through his or her hair. Another turn on for the first kiss is to gently caress their shoulder while you kiss. It shows you are comfortable with him/her. Gently hold your partner's face with your hands on their cheeks and their neck, or wrap your arms around your partner in an embrace. The most important thing about using your hands is that you respect your partner's boundaries. Play with their ears or run your fingers through their hair, as this is very stimulating. The second most important thing (much less important than the first) is that your hands should do something. Don't just let them hang at your sides; it will seem like you're not into the kiss.
11. Be a gentleman (or a lady) at all times, and you'll be more kissable. Read your partners body language. Everybody kisses a little differently, and each person enjoys different things in a kiss - there is no "right" way to kiss. What separates good kissers from bad is an ability to read a partner's body language and be responsive to their partner. Of course if your partner pulls away or seems uncomfortable at any time, understand that you have to slow it down. Good kissing requires give-and-take, so read your partner’s body language and pay attention to clues (sighs or moans) that tell you you’re doing something he or she likes. Let your partner kiss you back, and move with him or her as long as you’re comfortable with what he or she is doing. Listen for cues that tell how much your partner is enjoying a particular kissing maneuver. If you hear a sigh or moan, or they begin kissing you back with increased intensity, realize that they are responding with fervor.

1. Think about what makes someone come home from a first date and tell their friends, "Wow, my date was awesome! I had such a great time getting to know this person and can’t wait to see them again." While it might have been the revealing clothes they wore or maybe even their perfume, it was most likely something more than that. Things that make a first date truly memorable are often found in the mental more than the physical connections.
2. Be a true optimist. Try and think positively when out on a first date. Ignore the fact that you prefer to date men that are 180cm or taller when this guy is only 160cm. A person’s height shouldn’t determine his level of intelligence or sense of humor. Try not to pay attention to the fact that they have brown hair when you really prefer blondes. They could turn out to be one of the nicest people you’ve met in a while.
3. Be a good listener: On a date, a great listener knows how to keep the conversation moving with a healthy mix of give and take. The more you focus on asking the other person questions, the more you’ll learn about them. If you allow your date to really open up and tell you about who they are, it’s quite likely that you'll get the same treatment.
4. Be flexible. When it comes to a first date, one of the most difficult parts can be simply agreeing on where to go and what to do. So you don’t really love Chinese food, and they've made a reservation at Ming’s Palace. What can you do? It’s probably not appropriate to argue on a first date. Surely there must be something simple on the menu that you could be happy with?! Try and appreciate the fact that the other person took the time to arrange everything and just go along with it.
5. Be yourself. This one is perhaps the most important of all the points. If you’re not being yourself on a first date, you are truly doing a disservice to the other person. They agreed to go out with you because there was something there that called their attention. If you seemed so funny on the phone, but on the date you are all stiff and serious, that’s not a real reflection of you. If you think of yourself as a silly and humorous person, don’t hide that from your date. Be yourself and let your true energy shine through.